This week, I really enjoyed learning about the Expectation
Violations Theory. I thought it was very
interesting ow our expectations are dictated by out past experiences and
culture. It doesn’t always occur to us
that some people have different backgrounds and experiences that allow them to
use haptics the same way we might. Often
times we react to a situation and panic but realize after the fact, that this
person may be “touchy”, or gives kisses as a greeting in their culture.
The text also helped me to learn and understand more about
the placement of the arms. The crossing
of the arms really stood out to me because I cross my arms. After learning about this topic, I noticed
there are times I cross my arms differently and tighter depending on the
situation I am in. I also notice that I
dress according to how I feel and I don’t always realize it. There are days where I feel god about myself
and dress nicer and then there are other days I am tires and wear sweats or
more athletic attire. I know how I feel
and what I look like but now I pay more attention to what I wear because it can
and does project an image I do not always want.
Another thing that caught my interest was the different
positions our bodies show and communicate.
In some situations, I cross my arms and slouch as if to say that I am
anxious or uncomfortable with a situation and other times, I look down and try
to avoid any eye contact. When this
occurs I am usually embarrassed or ashamed of something I did. Since being in the class, I notice a lot more
about what others, as well as myself, show and communicate through nonverbals.
I too enjoyed this section and the expectation violation theory. I am a touchy person and sometimes forget that not everyone is that way. I am currently visiting friends in Hawaii and LOVE the way the locals greet one another with a hug and kiss on the cheek. This is so not something that would go over very well in our little Cedar City. I believe that our culture teaches us how and when to "touch" and what is appropriate.
ReplyDeleteI too enjoyed this section and the expectation violation theory. I am a touchy person and sometimes forget that not everyone is that way. I am currently visiting friends in Hawaii and LOVE the way the locals greet one another with a hug and kiss on the cheek. This is so not something that would go over very well in our little Cedar City. I believe that our culture teaches us how and when to "touch" and what is appropriate.
ReplyDeleteI said almost the same thing about dress. I think it is interesting how much we do different things and are unaware of what exactly we are doing. I have never thought about how often I express my feelings with my body language, but after reading the chapter I realized that it is something I do more often than I would like. I am the type of person who often has my arms folded, and when reading the chapter I was amazed by how accurate it was in explaining the different types of arm folds and how it depends on the situations we are in.
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