Observation 5

I went to Applebee’s with my daughter for lunch.  There was a couple I began to observe sitting in the both across from us.  The man was constantly on his phone while the woman was sitting there looking confused, frustrated, irritated, and sad.  She made the comment to him “why did you bring me along if you’re going to be on your phone?”  The expressions on his face told me that he was having quite a conversation with another person via technology.  This is where I observed the aggressive communication with CMC.  He didn’t care about the woman’s feelings he was with.  It appeared that he was trying to block himself and by being on his phone he was able to not have to interact or open up. 

The second group I observed was a family of five.  The younger child was yelling and the parent’s both gave him ‘the look’.  Within a matter of seconds he stopped and started to pout.  They ordered their food; while the one child wanted something specific the mother told him that she was going to order him something that was similar.  Deception at its finest, there is a huge difference between beef and chicken.  The oldest boy decided to drink his younger brother’s soda because his was all gone.  He did this by switching the cups slowly on the table.   It looked like he was moving the cups to get the crayons from the middle of the table, but in reality he wanted more to drink.  When he accomplished this task and started drinking, immediately I could tell by the look of satisfaction on his face.  The other boy told the mom this occurred and she asked the oldest.  Of course there was total denial.  The boy who took the drink was telling his mom NO, he didn’t take it, when there was a slight smile on his face, and his head was shaking up and down.  Those were the clues of deception that I noticed.  These are cues that I wouldn’t ever noticed prior to this section.